(Episode 6 Cont'd too) LOVE AFFAIRS | A novel of the OmidanWURA_files By Segun Alonge Jr

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4.  Exercise your body and mind
E.W Kenyon would say, ‘Make your brain work, it would sweat’. Engage your mind with reasonable thoughts. Do not leave it to wander around.

Thoughts are things – you first empower them, then they rule over you. The mind is like muscles, it needs stretching. Set great goals and work at achieving them.

I like when someone say a thing is impossible. If it’s in line with my life’s purpose, I embark on it immediately to prove that nothing is impossible.
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Few tips on mind workout
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- Expand your knowledge base: Food is to the body as reading is for the mind. Feed your mind daily with inspiring thoughts and patterns that are noble and reputable. Do not stop learning! Learning is a lifelong process - we do not retire from it. In fact, when you do you start dying. You should speak more intelligently today than you did yesterday.
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- Embrace obstacles and challenges: Opportunities they say always come wrapped up in films called challenges. How often do you unpack them? Face challenges head on -  it toughens your mind. I often like to say, create one for you if there is none. Your growth is dependent on the victories you have over trials and tragedies.
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- Shun self intimidation: How do you see circumstances and challenges? Do you see them as impossible? In conquering Mount Everest, Edmund Hillary failed initially but he uttered some purposeful words. He said to the mountain, you have grown all you could, but I am still growing. He did return and conquered the mountain.

The greatest defeat is from within not without. When you are defeated without, a little is lost – but when you are defeated within, all is lost.
Bodily exercise, the great Apostle Paul says profit little – but that little is worth it.

Engage your body in workouts. Get on a daily exercise routine – keep your body in good shape. Appearance matters too, you know!
You would be dazed at how some young adults and teenagers look so grotesque that they repel people. I do not mean everyone should go on a slim diet routine. I’m simply saying keep fit.

Keeping fit doesn’t always mean lowering your fat intake. I have met really big ladies and men that are smart and agile. Your body shouldn’t be too weighty for you to carry and move around easily. Eat wisely! Watch all that goes into your mouth.
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5. Avoid people who seek to control and silent your personality
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How can you discern and detach yourself from them?

When they come into your life as a leader, they are insecure. They don’t mind keeping you under their wings for a lifetime. When you discuss great visions and aspirations with them, all they would say is, ‘I don’t think you are matured for this’. They are like mother eagles who would never release her eaglets to exercise their innate abilities to ride on the wings of the wind.
Your rapid personal development becomes a threat to their personal ego.

When they come as friends, they easily launch into envy and jealousy. They are experts at storing up stories. Comments such as: ‘can you imagine Wura is now very proud? She now behaves as though she is the only one that has a sense of purpose’. She has forgotten how we started together. Your personal development would appear to them as pride. You don’t sit with them scratching like chicks anymore - you are soaring with wings as eagles. While they sit to complain about how things seem not to be working, you are busy discerning ways to proffer solutions to the problems. Surely, water will find its level as they always say. You cannot afford to keep around the people who get easily intimidated by your progress and success. Find people who sharing few conversations with will make you feel as though you have not even started at all.

When they come as spouses, it’s very irritating. You would think life is all about a winner and a loser. But the truth is, we can all win. I think that mindset flowed down from our education system. The system is designed in such a way that some people just have to fail to keep it running. As a matter of fact, that’s a yardstick to measure its efficiency and effectiveness. It’s sad that most people carry this mindset into their relationships. I’ve seen couples who compete as though they were no longer one flesh.
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This goes to husbands here seated – you don’t need to silence her dreams and life’s pursuit all in the name of making her submissive. Encourage her into greatness and what you would get is the absolute trust, respect, honour and reverence. I am a living testimony.

To be continued...

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