(Episode 10 Cont'd too) LOVE AFFAIRS | A novel of the OmidanWURA_files By Segun Alonge Jr

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Are all guys/men sex freaked (oriented)?
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I do not know. I do not know because I have not met all men. But if the first thing a man wants to have with you is sex, then you need to check yourself. If the neck up is empty, neck down would be the prey. If that’s not the case, then it’s a clear pointer to you that such a man is not an eligible suitor.
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It gets to me when a man meets a lady and the first thing he thinks about is sex. Does it mean that she has no other value/thing to offer?

Some ladies do not help matters either – they demand from the initial stage and that makes the (foolish) man think nothing goes for nothing. He might choose to be remunerated by demanding sex. This to me is a high definition of prostitution.
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How do I get to know him/her better then?
Be good friends and share things together freely. Take your time. Enjoy friendship. Who says you cannot get to know him/her while you are close friends?

You could even know and meet his siblings and parents. There are family events like weddings that you can attend as a friend and get to meet his/her relatives. I don’t subscribe to being engaged first and then try to know the person. By ‘knowing’, I do not mean knowing completely – for that won’t be possible, but at least acquainting you with him/her.
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What about so many suitors at a time?
In a case where you have a handful of suitors at a time, it might look absurd to trying to know every of their families via attending events. As a matter of fact, you don’t have the luxury of time.

Your first responsibility before getting engaged is to know who you are. If you know who you are, those who would naturally be channeled towards you are those that are in line/tune with you.

Your kind should approach you! When it doesn’t work that way, you should question yourself. You could ask yourself or him about the part of you that he is attracted to. Most cases he would say, ‘everything – all of you’, but don’t be deceived – that’s not true. Make him specify!

You might not intend giving him a ‘Yes’ but at least, you have heard him out and he has in turn told you something you might not yet know about yourself – that is if he is being sincere.

Secondly, I would advise you do not treat anyone of them with a special attention – that is, if you have a handful at a time, which is on a very rare situation.

If they are five for instance, and the five of them know that you befriend all of them, try not to treat anyone of them specially – at least while two or more are present at the same time. You won't have to do that for long before water begins to find its level.
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Who and how do I choose/accept proposals from?
Let me combine the two questions – since they are similar. The creator of the institution called marriage has provided us with guidelines in its manual.
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The common ground (foundation) – when Abraham instructed his servant to look out for a wife for his son, Isaac, he specifically told him to choose from among his kinsmen.
Pick only from the royal kingdom! Accept proposals exclusively from the one big family of God.
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The specific ground – Not everyone in the kingdom is eligible for you. The servant looked out for qualities even among the daughters of the clan. The fact that he is a pastor does not make him the perfect suitor for you. Her sweet delicacies does not imply that both of you must be married. You might be placed in her life to build her into controlling several chains of restaurants.

To be continued ....

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