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Be sure you are not a mere alternative or just one to while away time with. Commitment does not begin after marriage. If it is not evident now, it won't after marriage. Genuine love is not just one at a time but one for life. True love would pass the test of singularity.

Love is not self-centred. The goal should be to give all of you to the other person. Be opened to receive love. When you constantly think about the possibility of heartbreak, you cheat yourself of the happiness and peace of mind NOW. The one who intends to take advantage of you would fail the love tests. It won't be long before you see the true colours. The lifelong journey ahead requires an agreement on vital issues of life from the outset. Don't ignore the warning signs in the name of love. That's stupidity! Strictly from SMAJ archive

The times spent together should not always be for food and movies. There are so much that should be known. Love longs to know so much about the other person: dreams, desires, hopes, family and interests. Who are the friends you met him/her with? Do not ignore them. They have played and might continue to play a huge role in decision-making processes. You cannot know too much. Show deep interest. It's not too early to begin to support and help birth or/and expand visions and aspirations.  Strictly from SMAJ archive

Any relationship that would last,  would require quality time investment. Time would prove the genuineness of the acclaimed love. Don't be afraid to subject your relationship to the test of time. When pressure begins to set in, irrational decisions are not far-fetched.  Attractiveness is not enough to validate love. You can be attracted to several persons in a day. Be real with yourself first.  Look out for the beauty within.  Grow together! You would find out if you can love and tolerate each other. If not, do the needful immediately.  Not all quality relationships lead to marriage. You can be friends forever. The married life requires a higher level of commitment and tolerance. I have seen good friends who cannot live together for an extended period of time.  Strictly from smaj's archive